What men do particularly well when it comes to dating is playing it cool; not making a rash decision and just seeing what happens. What women (and by women, I don’t include everyone, but do include myself and my dating female friends) do particularly badly in the dating game is being composed and aloof. Which is why this blog includes a few dating tips especially for women.
After my year of dating I have become very familiar with my flaws on the dating scene and as a young dating woman I have had to take some advice and some well-needed dating tips on how to be better at dating. “Dating tips for women” may sound patronising and condescending, but there’s nothing with accepting that you need a little help. I was aware that I did; I did not have cruise control, I had two gears: reverse and override! And I showed it, I wore my heart on my sleeve and was devoid of aloofness. Additionally, open mindedness isn’t something comes naturally to me so it took a lot of will power not to dismiss potential daters instantly.
Having said all this ladies, I have improved; a new year and a new me means I have wisdom to share…
Throw away the Checklist…
The older we get and the more date, it’s inevitable that desirable traits will get put upon a hypothetical list. However, this is an unhealthy way to start dating. People are dismissed without a look in – who knows what you may be throwing away because they are half an inch under the height requirement and you once went out with a short guy who had a big chip on his shoulder. That guy you just dismissed may have been kind, sensitive and generous and you shelved him because of half an inch!
Be honest!
Don’t be scared to say what you want. As women it’s in our nature to please, but don’t be afraid to let them know what your expectations are, otherwise how are they ever going to live up to them. And if they don’t…
Give them a second chance.
Not a third or fourth, but definitely a second. Men usually have to cross a line before they see it, so let them make a mistake once… And if they’re worth holding on to they won’t do it again.
Stop The Wedding Plans!
Instead of thinking “Is he husband material? “You should be thinking “Is he second date material?” He certainly won’t be thinking any further ahead than next week, so why should you? There is so much fun to be had in the early stages of dating why would anyone want to waste time thinking about the future?
Dating isn’t easy; you are going to get knock backs, find new hang ups, put yourself under the microscope and feel vulnerable and exposed. All this takes courage, and it’s hard enough just “being yourself” under these pressures without considering everything else I’ve mentioned. But all of the above points link to one word… Relax! If you relax and enjoy it, for what it is, a meeting, a new person, an adventure… Then you will be good at it.