First date sex – should you or shouldn't you?

Hotly debated topic

It’s a hotly debated dating topic, but should you have sex on the first date? There’s certainly no definite answer to the issue of first date sex, and often you’ll find that a person’s response depends on a number of factors, mainly their age and gender as well as loads of other variables that make us all idiosyncratic individuals.

Women

Most women seem to be of the general consensus that they should refrain from having sex on the very first date, and this is almost certainly true for women the further away from the twenties they get.

A major obstacle to women having sex on the first date is the theory that they will come across as a ’slag’. They believe that the guy will ultimately lose respect for her in the long-run, ruining any chances of a long-term relationship. Whilst this might be true for some relationships, a study from ‘The Guardian’ on the issue of first date sex revealed how the chemistry between some couples on a first date can be so perfect, that the only way to end the night is between the sheets.

Men

Surprisingly,  research show that more men than predicted seemed to share a similar opinion on first date sex – although more men than women admitted that they would definitely try for sex on the first date!

Should I then?

It therefore seems that first date sex depends on the individuals concerned. Most relationship experts will claim first date sex is bad for long-term relationship success, and this is probably true for many couples.

Getting to know each other before getting more intimate can certainly built up that all-important trust. Nevertheless, for some couples it seems just ‘right’ to have first date sex, and if both of you feel comfortable with it, why not?