So lets get started and have some fun with this because that’s what flirting is all about. BUT…. I want to say right up front that anyone can learn to flirt and have men attracted to them. So if you’ve always told yourself you’re too shy to flirt and you couldn’t dream of approaching a man, then it’s time to put that one to bed because it’s just not true.
Yes, there are some people that flirting comes more naturally to than others and often they do it without even noticing, but they’re in the minority. The good news is that you too can become a flirting goddess and attract a great guy into your life because flirting is a skill, and all skills can be learned.
So, are you ready to get started?
OK. So here are a few of the essentials you DO want to be doing when you spot a guy you’re interested in:
- Be having fun with whoever you’re with
- Make it clear you’re interested in him (but without coming on too strong)
- Smile at him and then simply say something – be playful
So if you’re feeling confused about why you can’t get a guy to approach you even though you know you’re a good catch then read on for my 7 secrets to being a flirting goddess!
1. Smile
This one is so simple yet it seems that so few of us do it! We end up closed off and living in our own worlds for much of the time and we forget to really engage with the people around us.
So practice everyday smiling to anyone you pass on the street, end up on the treadmill next to at the gym or in the queue at Starbucks!
You want to be conveying that you’re an open, warm hearted and approachable woman and if you can throw a bit of fun in as well guy will love you!
You see men are often scared stiff of rejection so if you can make it easy for him and radiate a friendly air about you, he’ll be far more likely to come and say ‘Hi’.
2. Catch his eye
Now yes, you may think this is just too obvious, but what you’re looking to do here is send him a clear signal that you’re interested in him.
What I’m talking about here is not just a quick glance, but holding his eyes for about 3 seconds, just long enough for him to connect with you.
That’s because in order to send an effective signal with eye contact, you need to hold your gaze longer than might seem natural. Three whole seconds.
3. Be light hearted and playful.
We all love someone who’s fun to be around and most guys love a sexy and playful woman  they know will be fun to date – after all we want the same in a guy right? So try and set the tone from the start… and it doesn’t matter whether he approaches you or you him.
One word of caution – avoid any sarcasm as this will have him backing off faster than you can say ‘mine’s a G&T!’
4. Ask him about himself and really listen to his answers
We all love to talk about ourselves and know that someone’s really interested in what we have to say – men are no different. When you show interest in his life, he’ll feel great and you’ll create an instant attraction and want to see you again.
The other thing this does is give you a lot of clues as to whether this is a good match for you and if he’s not, then you can just move on politely.
5. Have fun & laugh with him
We always say we love a man with a sense of humour and men are acutely aware of this. He’ll want to make you laugh as much as possible so if you laugh at his jokes (however bad they are) his confidence will go through the roof and he’ll feel as if he’s winning with you. This is very powerful to a man. He needs to know he’s got the go ahead to ask you out on a date.
6. Be different
It’s vital that you get his interest by revealing something a little different about yourself, something that sets you apart from other women.
7. Remember your body language.
Surprisingly only 7% of our communication is verbal (that means 93% is nonverbal body language or the tone of our voice). Scary when you think about it!
So hold yourself well, lean across the table and give him the odd touch every now and then to send the signal you’re interested.
I hope that gets you started, but as with all skills practice makes perfect. Arrange as many nights out with your friends as possible and just go out and enjoy yourself without having any attachment to whether he asks you out or not because you can never know whether he’s in the right place for a relationship or not … but unless you try you’ll never know!
Happy Dating
Sharon
By Sharon Vickery – Author of ‘The Secrets To Finding & Keeping An Amazing Man’
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