1. Figure out what qualities are your ‘must haves’ in a man.
Now I’m not talking about the physical or monetary attributes that are always a pleasant bonus, you know, the 6ft tall, dark and handsome banker with a great car, no ex wife or kids! I mean the qualities and values and the way he’d be with you that would make you feel loved, cherished and secure.
Commit to spending some time really getting to know what these qualities are so that when the next man comes along you’ll know if he’s worth dating and is a good match for you or if you should just let him go and move on.
2. Decide if you are ready to attract the right man and have the relationship you want?
It’s vital to get your own house in order if you’re to attract the right man. I hear so many women who want this ‘perfect guy’ but the question is: ‘If your perfect guy turned up in your life tomorrow, would you be the perfect woman for him right now?’
Remember, the great mature guys out there have choice, just like the great mature woman does. They’re not going to ‘fall’ into any relationship, they’re not going to settle for second best and neither should you.
So, take a few moments to write down the sort of person you are in a great relationship.
- How do you communicate with him when you’re feeling emotional?
- How do you cope with disagreements or when he goes distant?
- What do you enjoy doing in your free time with and without him?
- How do you support him in what he loves to do?
- What do you value in yourself and offer a new partner?
- Where do you feel you’ve gone wrong in the past and what needs to change to have a different result?
The good news is that you can have any kind of man and relationship you want. You just have to be prepared to be patient, do some work on yourself and get ready to attract and then of course, keep him!
3. Make the time to go and get him!
OK, so you’re ready to find the right man for you but this next step is the one we so often neglect. You see unless you’re out there meeting people and actively putting yourself in situations where you’re likely to meet the right men, it’s just not going to happen and you’ll end up disheartened and feeling like the whole dating process is just too much like hard work.
My recommendations are to join an online dating site, find new single girlfriends and of course just go out and have some fun. It’s great if guys approach you but don’t wait for that to happen. Be the one to go over to him and say something fun to get his attention, I promise…he’ll love you for it.
Now I know you want a guy that’s strong and not afraid to come over and chat to you, but don’t forget, guys are scared of rejection too so make it easy for him by giving him a little helping hand, after all, what have you got to lose?
Final note:
Don’t try to fit the wrong man into being your perfect partner because you’ll just end up disappointed and frustrated every time.
Commit to taking the time to understand yourself and what will make you happy and then crucially, GO OUT, HAVE FUN AND GET IT!
By Sharon Vickery – Author of ‘The Secrets To Finding & Keeping An Amazing Man’
You can find out more about Sharon Vickery and ask her your questions by going to the Sharon Vickery ‘Dating Coach’ page. Remember, she’ll personally respond to Smart Dating UK users within 24 hours with her expert advice.
